No matter your age, dating can be a wholly terrifying prospect. As we get older, we assume that through marriages, divorces, and starting once again – this whole routine will somehow get easier or, at least, less nerve-wracking.
Of course, as seniors entering the dating scene, there are some age-specific concerns, for example, whether portable oxygen tanks can be put aside to tango or how to hear your date in a crowded restaurant. It’s important to see which dating behaviors work later in life and which no longer serve us and how to maneuver some of these issues with hearing loss.
Inspired by Loring’s documentary, The Age of Love, we at Audicus wanted to offer up a few key tips to seniors looking to re- enter the dating scene:
1. Don’t lead with your health issues – you don’t want to give the impression you’re seeking a caregiver. Plus, bringing up your hearing aid first thing might not be the smoothest way to start a conversation.
2. By the same token, don’t be afraid to let your date know you need to meet in a quiet place in order to hear. Dive bars maybe aren’t your scene anymore. At this point, most seniors are dealing with various health issues and will understand. Now is not the time to get self conscious– it’s important (and attractive) to be bold and confident. Not to mention, a good listener!
3. Speaking of confidence… Confidence is sexy at any age. Though we’re less able to rely on our looks, we can always embody an open and adventurous spirit. And that? Well, it’s attractive no matter how old you are.
4. Don’t talk too much about your ex. This is probably good advice for any age. But in our twilight years, it’s easy to dwell on long-term marriages that can leave our partner either feeling either unable to measure up or taken aback (if the relationship ended poorly).
5. Get comfy with being uncomfy. Social rules that applied decades ago may no longer serve you. For example, both men and women should feel free to start a conversation or make a move.
6. And don’t be afraid to use a date as an opportunity to try something new! Whether it’s a foreign film or a new type of cuisine, being brave together is a great way to jump-start a budding relationship.
We at Audicus can’t recommend “The Age of Love” enough. In fact, we hosted a sold-out screening of the documentary here in NYC! And remember, make sure your hearing aids are properly fitted – you don’t want to miss any of those “sweet nothings” your new partner might be whispering in your ear.